Campus Sex Files (5): Dear Professor Oluchi, I am falling for my boyfriend’s twin brother – I need help

Posted by admin Campus Sex Files, Headlines Friday, April 22nd, 2016

Dear Professor Oluchi,
My boyfriend has a twin brother, but I didn’t have a chance to meet him since we have been dating in the last eight months until last week when he flew in for holidays from California where he studies medicine. They are not identical twins and I believe I am in love with him. I went with his brother (my boyfriend) to the airport to pick him up and I fell in love right there. He is much taller than my boyfriend, well built and more handsome and refined. My boyfriend has been very nice to me, but I just can’t help my feelings. I know I can’t have both and I certainly can’t have his twin, but I am hopelessly in love and I can’t help myself. Since they have been apart for two years, they spent a lot of time together getting caught up and I have been with them most of the time, which makes matters worse. He has another two weeks to be in the country and I am not sure if I can control my feelings and not throw myself at him. What can I do to overcome these feelings?
Nimma – by email

Dear Nimma,
I understand your feelings, most young people with raging hormones find it difficult to control their emotions in times like this. What you have is a case of “infatuation” and nothing more than that. Your boyfriend’s twin presents a breath of fresh air, something new and exciting, especially, since he is a medical student studying in the United States with great promise. With time, he too will fade. Even though your boyfriend is not as flashy, handsome and refined as his twin, you have to bear in mind that not all that glitters is gold. If your boyfriend has treated you right, then you should be loyal to him and don’t even think about starting anything romantic or sexual with his twin. That will be the ultimate betrayal and the relationship is as good as done. To repress these feelings, give them time and space to bond, since the twin does not live in Nigeria and has only come for a visit. You may also think of the fun times with your boyfriend to repress the feelings you have for his twin. A good book with an interesting subject will do as well.
Sincerely,
Professor Oluchi

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Oluchi, a professor in one of the universities in Nigeria, dedicates this column to young female students across the country who may be subjected to sexual harassment by their lecturers, cultists, administrators or fellow students. Having experienced sexual harassment herself as a university student without institutional or professional support, she feels strongly in leveraging her counselling background to provide as much support to the often helpless victims.

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